As the school holidays came to an end I had the Mother of all "Mother guilts."
I felt bad that Lo had been home for 2wks and I was too busy to actually get a day out with him and enjoy the holiday time.
He didn't seem bothered at all, he was loving the fun activities with his mate next door and just chilling out cooking in the kitchen or playing with his little bro. I on the other hand felt terrible that we didn't go to the movies or just jump on the bus for a bit of a day trip.
Thankfully a friend made me realise that it was OK not to spend all the holidays keeping him occupied. As kids mum didn't spend the whole holidays occupying us, and taking us to various activities. We had to find our own fun.
I am always too quick to blame myself, and feel guilty for not being the "perfect mum".
I do my best. I am finally starting to realise that is all that matters. As long as I always do my best and the boys know they are loved then that is as perfect as it gets.
Do you suffer with "Mother guilt"? Do we need to step back and take a leaf out of our grandparents book more often?
I felt bad that Lo had been home for 2wks and I was too busy to actually get a day out with him and enjoy the holiday time.
He didn't seem bothered at all, he was loving the fun activities with his mate next door and just chilling out cooking in the kitchen or playing with his little bro. I on the other hand felt terrible that we didn't go to the movies or just jump on the bus for a bit of a day trip.
Thankfully a friend made me realise that it was OK not to spend all the holidays keeping him occupied. As kids mum didn't spend the whole holidays occupying us, and taking us to various activities. We had to find our own fun.
I am always too quick to blame myself, and feel guilty for not being the "perfect mum".
I do my best. I am finally starting to realise that is all that matters. As long as I always do my best and the boys know they are loved then that is as perfect as it gets.
Do you suffer with "Mother guilt"? Do we need to step back and take a leaf out of our grandparents book more often?
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Doesn't mean I don't feel guilty, a little bit, but sometimes I just have to say to myself, at least I'm here with him. That's enough.
If I can manage that, I try to let myself off the hook for not organising finger painting or for not taking them out to the backyard enough.
But yes, mother guilt is one of those things that makes me wake up in the morning saying: "Today I'm going to try to be a better mum than yesterday."
Jumping in from FYBF :)
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Jennifer x
I am glad I'm not the only one who doesn't ahve a full planned schedule for school holidays.